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re: A constant reminder

auric36 — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 21:17:16 GMT

I'm hurting just reading your story, and the other story a/b the escalator, aw babies!!

As for the daily massage, keep trying and go day by day. This is after all the child's face, you should try to limit the scarring. It will get better in time and then at least you can know you did all you were able to. It's better to do something, you will not regret that. On the other hand if you do nothing, you may regret that. So true with life, we always regret the things we didn't do.

re: A constant reminder

pajama mom — Sat, 03 Jan 2009 02:12:40 GMT

i feel your guilt! hopefully it will fade over time, as the scar fades...

i had a similar incident with our (then) 3 year old son. he climbed on the seats around the mall play area, reached out, and grabbed the escalator rail! it pulled him out of the play area and he somehow flipped onto the escalator stairs!

it happened in slow motion, i could not get there fast enough. i hurdled the seats (literally) and saw his bloody cheek! ripped open, three vertical lines from the stairs... it looked AWFUL.

the pediatrician gave us the same advice, a year! after the scab healed, we put vitamin e on his cheek every night, using gel capsules. slowly, very slowly, it did heal.

sometimes when he runs and gets flushed, i can still see the little marks. it tears my heart out, but same as you, i am ever thankful that it wasn't much worse.

best of luck with the massaging! we did not have to deal with that, thankfully! i can only imagine, since all we had to do is rub vitamin e - and i can still hear the whining!

re: Yes, Dear, I did drop the baby

Brian David — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 16:03:07 GMT

Yes they do! One of the most touching aspects -- and most guilt-inspiring -- was how quickly and unthinkingly Sam forgave me, and kept trusting me. So innocent!

re: Yes, Dear, I did drop the baby

Lisa Q — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 13:11:26 GMT

I'm glad to hear your son is alright. Know that you are not alone in having that "what was I thinking" moment after the fact. We've all been there, probably more times than we can remember...and our kids still love us anyway!

re: Watching them drive away

pajama mom — Wed, 26 Nov 2008 18:05:16 GMT

very nicely written, maybe they will let you ride with them sometime, you know, hidden in the backseat...

re: Step-It Down, or is it Steppin' Down?

Heather — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 14:50:47 GMT

I love this. We have our "little games" too and you're right, they end too quickly. Same thing with the little sayings/funny speech. I used to try and get Matthew to say words properly, but now that he does I miss the funny speech. (Our favorite was "excuse me" which he pronounced like "dunganeese!" - now he says "excuse me" like a proper adult and it kills me!)

re: Step-It Down, or is it Steppin' Down?

Lisa Q — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 14:40:12 GMT

Gotta love the fun minds of the little ones!

re: "Baby cry!" he said

ScullyPA — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 18:23:06 GMT

Evenings typically suck in my house, too. The time before dinner is the universal "witching hour" for young kids, I think. As soon as we pull in the car in the garage, they automatically hit their whine buttons, I swear. They are hungry, tired from their day, and expecting mom and/or dad to take care of them, feed them immediately, cuddle, etc., when we are trying frantically to get their dinner.

I haven't found a great solution, but having dinner already waiting in the crock pot helps immensely, if you can manage it. Noodles can also be made earlier, just add a little olive oil when they are done, then put in fridge, to be heated when needed. (Pasta and rice are the most horrible things to wait to finish cooking.) There is instant rice and steamed rice, too. I'm often making three meals in the morning when I get up -- breakfast for my boys, their lunches, then dinner. Get used to it after a while.

re: "Baby cry!" he said

Brian David — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 19:50:47 GMT

Thank you! I think the frustration is universal -- it's how we respond to it that counts. I don't know that my response in this case was the best, but I think something good came out of it. Thanks for writing!

re: "Baby cry!" he said

Catherine45 — Sat, 18 Oct 2008 13:25:40 GMT

Dear Brian,

I know from experience, raising three children, that the constant "mommy" and crying is very grating at times, but to be a good parent, I have learned, you have to be calm. Writing a blog about your frustration, as you have done is very good! I wish you the best luck Brian!

re: Winning fights by not fighting

Brian David — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 21:10:33 GMT

Just saw this comment -- my apologies.

Actually, I think the important part of the battle was for him to realize that he could control the situation if he could control his temper and be polite -- and that if he could not control his temper and be polite, then no, he could not control the situation.

Think of it this way. If you were in a bad mood and a friend tried to hug you to make you feel better and you did not want to be hugged, how would you react? Would you kick her?

re: Winning fights by not fighting

Netwench — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 17:41:32 GMT

I am sorry but my immediate reaction upon reading this is that you are a moron and a control-freak. I don't know what set off your toddler, Sam, but if it was anything like the situation you described with the 8-yr old, I would have kicked you too! You described the situation with the 8 yr old as you coming and realizing he was in a bad mood and thought you could cheer him up, so you grabbed him for a hug/tickle. He wasn't in the mood for this and wanted to be let go. He didn't ask for you to touch him in the first place and let it be known he was not happy and wanted to be left alone. And in your great, all-powerful, adult wisdom, you thought the best way to handle this was to exert your power/control over him by not letting him go and forcing him to acquiesce to your demands?!?!?!?! So, the important part of this battle was for him to realize who is boss, that he doesn't have any say so when it comes to his own feelings and that he can never win...what a fabulous lesson! Can I kick you for him?!

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re: Why kids don't drive

Brian David — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 03:38:38 GMT

Scholarships!

Honestly, I have no clue how we'll do that. We just try not to think about it.

re: Why kids don't drive

Heather — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 02:39:28 GMT

Wait until they all go to college at the same time! I had no idea that car insurance was that expensive. We only pay $50 a month for two adults/two cars!