I won’t ask much out of my kids as far as who they’ll become. Sure I have my thoughts and will help guide them to who they’ll eventually be, but it’s up to them in the end. Above everything, I want Lincoln and Reagan to be themselves and happy. However, I do ask that they have compassion and respect for people -- all people – all the time.
After yesterday’s ruling on same-sex marriage in PA, I wanted to explain it all to Lincoln, who is four. How great I thought it was; how wonderful; how it was about darn time. I didn’t, though. What would I say to a four-year-old about it that wouldn’t make him question (what I think is) the bad along with the good? Like, why couldn’t all people get married? Who wouldn’t want them to? Why aren't all people the same?
To me, four is a little too young to “get” all of this. To Lincoln getting “mare-weed” is something people do because they love each other and want to promise to love each other forever. At least that’s the definition I’ve given him to go on when he asked what “mare-weed” was. Currently, he wants to “mare-weed” his BFF Lily because he “loves her.”
That’s the TRUE strength of a marriage isn’t it? Love. So, now everyone who loves someone else can marry that person if they want in PA. And, hopefully, he can marry who he wants if Lily turns out to not be the one.
I want his four-year-old mind to think all people who love each other can marry if they want to. That all people are truly equal around here. One day, I’d love to tell him that at one point they couldn’t marry and that be immediately followed by a surprised face and a “whaaaaaaaaa?” Kind of like when my parents told me they didn’t have color TV (say what?!) and that when they were growing up a lot of the U.S. was segregated (ugh).
Did any of you explain yesterday’s events to your kids and share your opinion? What did they say?